The Force of Females

There's nothing more important than developing and maintaining a strong, and loving relationship with other women. And let me tell you why.

Throughout my life, I have made friends with girls that I literally consider family.  We have each others back, challenge each other, are honest and most importantly we support each other.  Although we constantly hear how important it is to be completely independent...go for our own luck and career, I am not afraid to say that I NEED these ladies to function normally in life.

Pictured by Celinde: Jeske Van de Staak

 

That's where I want to bring in the word 'sisterhood'.  These are the ladies that make up your tribe.  Just think about the power and history of women getting together.  Like the suffragettes; creating a strong movement trying to make equality of the sexes a real thing.  The most amazing thing I fins is that these powerful friendships remain despite the ups and downs of life.  You get through life and the though of 'ending it' is just not an option.  It's basically the perfect relationship...without the sex.

I never trust it when someone says, "I'm not a female friend kind of person".  That rings all sorts of alarm bells with me.  Forgive me, But I just don't believe that's possible and I am quite certain it's a phase, often started by being threatened by other females, that leads back to the one thing that cripples us all: Insecurity.  Once you embrace the power created in these strong female bonds there's no way you can't NOT be a "female kinda friend person".  

Of course, throughout the course of our lives there are bound to be some mismatches of character.  We live in an age where women get pit against each other.  Some body types are preferred over others in magazines (????), and there can be competition.  It takes a mountain of trust to be in a friendship where you can both completely be your authentic selves without being judged.  And just like relationships...sometimes you need the mismatches to get the good stuff.

I feel like I am in the fortunate position where I get the opportunity to see my girlfriends shine on stages all over the world and touch people in the most beautiful way. It's in those moments I can literally cry, fall to my knees and ask them to marry me.  When i saw Eva's performance at the Tony's this year, the tears were streaming down my face.  That's my girl.  My friend.  My little buddy I call when I'm a bit lost, or whenI want to talk about life, cultures, the human brain, sex, love or any subject under the sun.  And she's now blowing the roof off at the Tony's.  That inspries me to work harder and be more creative.

Now, you could see this whole speech as just a personal opinion right? But let me tell you, if you're still a skeptic about the strength of strong female friendships...A Harvard medical school study has shown that women who have close female friends are less likely to develop physical impairments as they age.  They are seen to live more longer vital and excitingly joyous lives (And this is when it gets craaaaazy), when a person is without the force of females, studies show that it's just as bad for your health as smoking or being overweight.  WHAT??!! CALL YOUR GIRLS UP PRONTO!!! And if that'snot enough...when we are stressed, our bodies produce a hormone called oxytocin, a stress releasing "feel good" hormone that is also increased when we're with out girls!

Recently, I watched a TedTalk, that I actually sent Eva, with Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HSercnrqeN4 and it put the biggest smile on my face.  Pat Mitchell opens up with this: "You can tell a lot about a woman by the company that she keeps." Well let me tell ya, I don't know how the hell I deserved these amazing women in my life...but I am surrounded by goddesses.  That must make me one.  They sure as hell make me feel like one.  And that's how it should be.  

The biggest love and strength to all my women out there. 

 

C xx